What does it take really?

You know, I was just reading Rene's post and it really touched me deep. Tickled all sorts of emotions I didn't know I had before in me. Lotsa people have been commenting on the emotional element in my posts. I guess it's been a really turbulent year for me. Settling down, knowing wonderful people, building beautiful relationships, self discovery, evolution in dreams and hopes and then, moving on again. The entire cycle repeats. But I truly believe that I had taken away plenty from these relationships, friendships and experiences.

So the big question Rene posed..

What does it take for a relationship to work?

Attended Pei Hsien's wedding the past weekend. It was really beautiful. One of the few weddings that I could actually feel the genuinity of the union and the pureness of the love shared. It's really quite amazing, the distance that had kept them apart and that the passion they had for one another still burns so strongly after all these years.

So, back to the question. What does it take for a girl to be loved and cherished forever?

Does she need to be pretty?

Does she need to be demure?

Does she have to be all obliging?

Does she need to constantly utter witty words to keep him entertained?

I don't know. Is love really so conditional?

Again, as Rene mentioned. All my life, I have been surrounded by smart, genuine, successful girls who are beautiful in every way possible. In fact, I have always felt a little overwhelmed being acquainted to them. I sometimes admire the perfect girls I see on the walkway, strutting their lovely heels, flipping their lustrous hair, glowing in their perfect complexions and wonder... how does it feel to be so perfect. Yet, does perfection = a successful relationship?

I know my relationships have been pretty controversial. I have my share of advice and being scolded from well- meaning friends. ( I appreciate the honestly, truly). But believe me, I believe in full commitment. I believe in sharing and sacrificing for your loved one. I believe in doing everything you can to see him happy. At the end of the day, just like anyone, I just want to be happy and be loved. :) You know, I used to think that you need to work hard to get. Even my mom tells me that. Lately, I have begun to think that being loved is not measured by how much you give.

Again, Rene's words really echos how I feel. ( I think she is really gorgeous inside out , smart and one of the nicest person in the world) . I know I'm not the prettiest yet I dont think Im the ugliest person in the world. I may not be a saint, but I'm not really the hardest person to live with. I'm not the valedictorian, but I think I do pretty well for a girl. I don't think I set such high standards or demands.

I know of girls who are so inconsiderate, so full of themselves, so undeserving yet so fortunate when it comes to being loved. So, it's not really about giving, is it? I'm still ever positive. But, bad things do happen to good people. Believe me, I have seen enough.

I'm curious really. Couples.. happy couples out there. Do please share. How do you know that he/ she is the one? What does one need/ not need to do to be loved and have faith that it'll last?

I am not complaining of not being treated right. In some ways, I have been really fortunate. Thank you, you and you for everything. I think, tough as us girls may all be, we all just want to be treated like princesses. To be cherished, respected and loved. Now, that's not too much to ask for, is it?